The Best Kind of Love
People often think I study relationships, but that’s not the case. I specialize in psychological analysis. Through my long-term collection of samples, I’ve encountered all kinds of outrageous situations, as if every relationship in the world has issues.
Is there really no such thing as the best love? Or, what does love that brings happiness actually look like?
I can tell you, the most peaceful, unremarkable, and seemingly problem-free love is the one that has the best future.
Once, a girl came to me and said that her boyfriend didn’t love her.
Her boyfriend was an ordinary IT guy. After being introduced through mutual acquaintances, they began dating, meeting up about twice a week for dates. Each time, they would go to the movies, walk around, and after grabbing some late-night snacks, the boyfriend would take her home.
After about two months of dating, the boyfriend invited the girl to his parents’ house for dinner, which went harmoniously. From then on, he would take her to his parents’ house for dinner every week or so.
After dating for over six months, the boyfriend started taking her to look at various renovation materials, as he was preparing to refurbish the apartment he had previously purchased.
However, at this point, the girl started to complain, saying the man didn’t love her. Why?
Because, during the six months they had been dating, the man had never given her flowers and never said, “I love you.”
The girl believed that not saying “I love you,” not whispering sweet words, and not experiencing the twists and turns that are expected in a relationship meant that he didn’t love her.
But she was wrong.
I often tell people this: those intense, heart-wrenching love stories, like the ones in Qiong Yao dramas, would definitely be problematic in real life. True love, on the other hand, is usually calm and unfolds naturally.
Girls often love romance and enjoy hearing sweet nothings. But you also need to understand that romance is a man’s practiced skill. If a man doesn’t know how to date or woo women, he won’t be romantic. If he is very good at romance, it only means he has courted many women before.
In this world, countless romantic men, like Xu Zhimo and Hu Lancheng, have honed their romantic skills by hurting different women. The more romantic a man is, the more emotionally detached he is.
Men who are good marriage material aren’t very romantic because they haven’t had extensive dating experience. They also won’t say sweet things because they don’t know how to.
These men aren’t particularly good-looking because overly attractive men are hotly pursued by others. And while their conditions aren’t the best, they can at least make a decent living and be self-sufficient.
They won’t think about flirting with other women. To them, dating means two dates a week, watching movies, and having dinner. To them, bringing you to meet their parents means the relationship is serious. To them, since you’ll be the lady of the house, of course, you should be involved in the home renovation process.
To these men, everything is normal, calm, and natural, without any drama. Everything just happens smoothly.
If we’re talking about love, what could be more loving, secure, and genuine than a man who opens up his heart, his family, his finances, and his plans for marriage to you?
If this man makes you guess where he is every day, makes you cry, makes you struggle to meet his family, and only sees you once every few months—do you call that love? That’s a man deceiving you.
So, don’t complain that he doesn’t whisper sweet nothings; that’s actually your luck. Don’t complain that your love is too peaceful; that’s actually your happiness.
The simplest love is the best love.
Thank you for reading! ” Sitestorys “
