modern marriage: Love Doesn’t Need Purification
I asked, “Why are you thinking about divorce even before getting married?” She replied that she wasn’t thinking about divorce but felt it was better to be prepared in case such a thing happened. I was speechless.
Next, I asked the guy, “Premarital property ownership can be changed! You and she just need to write an agreement stating that the house you bought belongs to both of you, then register it at the property department, and the house will belong to both of you!”
The male student felt embarrassed and explained that his mother’s name was also on the house. It turned out that this was a strategy by his mother to withdraw the housing provident fund, and she did not agree to change it.
It was then that I fully understood, and I couldn’t help but worry about the future of the young couple (I wasn’t even sure if I should call them a couple). Firstly, there was already a grudge between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law before they even started living together. More importantly, such private concerns about property would undoubtedly dilute love and even poison the marriage.
As the old saying goes, “Poor couples are sad in everything.” Now that they have money, other problems have arisen. Does having money make marriage happy?
So, every gift from heaven is a double-edged sword. Being well-off is also a double-edged sword.
Later, I met the female student again and expressed my concerns. Unexpectedly, she laughed nonchalantly and said something to reassure me. The gist was that what mattered was the coordination and harmony of living together, not whether the love was enough.
“As long as two people can live together harmoniously and benefit each other, there’s no need to worry so much, let alone purify love.” I didn’t say anything more. I understood that times were advancing. Young people now have a more realistic understanding of marriage.
Indeed, as long as living together is harmonious, love will emerge and become intense; or perhaps love, which was originally thin and mixed with some impurities (such as personal property concerns), might unknowingly transform into familial affection over a long period of harmony.
Later, I conducted a survey among the students on campus, and only one-third agreed with the above view. But in a survey among students who had graduated for more than two years, more than eighty percent agreed.
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