Love Story of Sadness: Breaking Up at the Right Time
A friend I hadn’t heard from in a long time called and mentioned his girlfriend. After several breakups and reconciliations, he finally agreed to her request: they would continue acting like lovers, but without officially defining their relationship. If either of them met someone more suitable, they would break up.
I thought to myself, this girl is really something—choosing to be an invisible lover in a relationship with no future.
I said, “So, it’s like keeping one while searching for another?” He laughed and called me names. I’m used to it. I have a habit of saying things that aren’t exactly comforting.
To be honest, I don’t really like hearing about other people’s love lives. Seeing the tangled romances of people today just reinforces my belief that nothing lasts forever.
I said, “If a piece of clothing is torn, I’d rather remember it in its perfect state than see it patched up. In my eyes, spilled water can never be gathered up again. You two are just setting yourselves up to end this in mutual exhaustion.”
After saying that, I wondered why I had spoken such harsh words. I guess it’s just a habit. I don’t like comforting others because I believe it doesn’t really help. When it comes to other people’s relationships, I either stay silent or say something practical that they can’t accept. I always seem like someone who’s grown used to the autumn wind scattering leaves, as if every relationship in the world is nothing more than a passing breeze. I wonder if I’m too cynical or maybe just too cruel.
But I’ve always felt that it’s best for two people to part ways before they start resenting each other—at least that way, they’ll have good memories. Besides, the things that leave us with regret are often the best, because the other person will have a lifetime to remember you.
So don’t believe in tears, don’t believe in regrets, don’t believe in letting go of past grievances, don’t believe in starting over, don’t believe in apologies wrapped in warm embraces, don’t believe that what wasn’t cherished before will be treasured later. Instead, choose to break up before you both grow tired of each other.
Thank you for reading! ” Sitestorys “
